in may, a lecture in our lecture series „jenseits der geschlechtergrenzen/beyond gender boundaries“ featured a talk about governmentality, discipline, and the subjectifying effects of hartz IV (unemployment ‚benefit‘ in germany coming with a lot of disciplinary sanctions while operating with a neoliberal rhetoric). of course, the lecturer also talked about the economization of social spheres, mentioning the work of gary s. becker on human capital and the economic life of/in the family.
in the following discussion somebody came up with the question who could ‚better‘ raise children: a single mother on hartz IV with much free time and love for her kids or a very busy manager who would only give them money and presents.
Some thoughts on that (beyond the very obvious problem of figuring the female as unemployed and the male as successful in his career):
what I find more interesting is the discursive distribution of time, love, and money.
time equals love (what is love here, anyway?) while money figures as opposite of time and thus love. hegemonically, love qualifies as by far most important factor in raising children – not only as ground but as educational feature. mothers (!) who do not love, the narration says, are bad ones, producing antisocial weirdos (at best) or/and criminals [since the 1950s, fathers, too, are increasingly called up to love their offspring, but up to now nothing could challenge the powerful notion of ‚a mother’s love‘]. [footnote: This idea of natural, motherly love is quite new, BTW. You can trace it’s genealogical roots not much further back than into the 1940s; Then, people began to see children more as individuals than as passive beings and Benjamin Spock (and others) taught mothers they would know by intuition how to raise their kids; among other things, these factors contributed to the now sedimented notion of motherly love that would come naturally – and if not, something would definitely be wrong; so mothers, be careful! – for a very interesting history of such educational thinking see miriam gebhardt: die angst vor dem kindlichen tyrannen. münchen 2009]
now, this time-thingy worked and still works to keep ‚loving mothers‘ out of the labor market [not out of economic relations, of course].
but this arrangement required the male breadwinner because an equally important discursive strain denies poor parents the capability of loving their children, respectively of raising their children appropriately. western history is full of narrations of ‚deficient‘ parents who are characterized as poor and *thus* (here is the interesting connection) as neglectful drunkards, cholerics, and uneducated folks with a negative attitude towards schooling. because the required educational and social skills are so closely connected with middle class, underclass homes seem to lack the capability of adequately raising their children, which is hegemonically represented by the empty signifier ‚love‘.
well – money and love seem to have quite a comlicated relationship but it seems opportune to construct motherly love as female, middle class, heterosexual nuclear family-monopoly.
let’s deconstruct!

